Part II: Success Lesson from Love

Last week I shared what love (and my mom) taught me about success. If you missed it, you can read it here.

Today, I’m sharing Part II – the second success lesson from love.

Perhaps you can relate to this experience: I found myself a good relationship with a great person.

There were so many amazing things about this relationship. And, like any relationship, we had our ups and downs too. Overall, it was a solid B+ relationship.

It was so close to being great! Yet, no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t get this solid B+, good relationship to be truly great for me. In the end, we just weren’t the right match for each other.

Good is the Enemy of the Great

It became apparent that as long as I stayed in this “good” relationship, a great relationship would always elude me.

This is what we call opportunity cost. The price you pay to choose something good is to give up the chance for something great.

In his book, Good to Great, Jim Collins says, “Good is the enemy of the great. Few people attain great lives, in large part because it is just so easy to settle for a good life.”

This is exactly what was happening in my romantic life and as hard as it was to let go of a good relationship, I knew it had to be. And, lo and behold, shortly after, I met a great partner and I now am part of a truly great relationship.

We are blessed with so many opportunities in life, love, and business. And with it comes the burden of choice – it’s challenging to pick just one and say no to perfectly good opportunities.

Yet, that’s exactly what you must do. You must say no to the good to achieve the great.

I know this is easier said than done. It’s scary to take your bets off the good and double down on the great. But, how else do you win big?

You Gotta Play to Win

This is the second lesson love taught me about success.

I share these lessons from love in the spirit of Valentine’s day, and because how we do anything is how we do everything.

You can build a great relationship, business, and life by consistently investing your time and energy in great opportunities. But equally important, place big bets on you and your greatness.

Believe in yourself so strongly, you’d bet the house.

Be bold, be courageous and go for great!

P.S. Though it’s out of convention to talk about love in business, I’d like to express my love and gratitude to all of you. I’ve had the privilege and honor to work with many of you as your coach, and I am grateful for your continued support and trust in me. Happy Valentine’s Day!