Productive Change

There’s a truth I keep learning over and over again: resistance = misery. It means, more than whatever I am resisting, the resistance itself makes me the most unhappy.

When there’s a situation you don’t like, it’s natural to want to resist it and the feelings associated with it. For example, I have some less than desirable health conditions, and I really don’t like it. I really, really want to get 100% well. My fear is that if I accept my current condition, I will never get over them.

Do you have circumstances in your business and/or life you are resisting? Perhaps it’s a difficult problem at work, financial struggles, or a sticky relationship situation. And, like me, you’re probably thinking to yourself, “I don’t want to accept it, I want to change it!”

The good news is, those two things aren’t mutually exclusive. You can accept situations for what they are and also work to change them. In fact, being in a state of acceptance helps you tap into your inner strength, resilience, and empowerment needed to influence change.

When I approach my health challenges from a place of acceptance, I make decisions and approach self-care from a place of self-love, hope, and patience. When I’m in resistance, I feel fear, desperation, and misery – quite the dramatic difference in energy.

I can tell you I much prefer the former to the latter. It’s far more productive.

What challenging situations are you resisting and wishing weren’t there? Close your eyes and bring the situation to mind. Take slow breaths and decide to let go of the resistance you feel.

Say it out loud if it helps. “I’m letting go of the resistance and accept the circumstance for what it is.”

It may feel scary at first, but stay with it and let the full truth of the situation wash over you.

As you flow through to accepting the situation, you’ll feel the weight of the resistance lift off your shoulders. You’ll feel freer. And, you still have choices to change it.

If you accept your behind on a big deadline, you can still work to meet it. You can still improve your difficult relationships. You can still pursue success and happiness. But, now you can do it without the negative weight of victim mentality, denial, or blame.

Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up. It simply means understanding the truth of the situation and freeing your thoughts and energy for productive change.